Stupid and Sensless Controversies

Reading through 2 Timothy this week.  Came across this verse this morning, "Have nothing to do with stupid and senseless controveries; you know that they breed quarrels.  And the Lord's servant must not be quarrelsome but kindly to everyone, an apt teacher, patient, correcting opponents with gentleness.  God may perhaps grant that they will repent and come to know the truth, and that they may escape from the snare of the devil, having been held captive by him to do his will" (2 Timothy 2:23-26 NRSV).   
It seems to me that from this passage the only thing guaranteed by "winning" or being "right" in a stupid controversy is quarrels.  I'm amazed at how often Christ-followers, and I include myself here, would rather be "right" than "kind," "patient," or "gentle."  Being "right" about an argument only seems to lead to a breakdown in relationship.  And often the things we take our "stand" against seem senseless in light of eternity and God's goodness.  It makes total sense that being kindly, patient, and correcting with gentleness would lead to God perhaps granting that people repent.  After all the fruit of the Spirit include "patience, kindness, and gentleness," but not "correctness."  Being "right" doesn't necessarily lead to correction.  So rather than having to be right all the time, wouldn't it be great if Christ-followers were known for being kindly, patient, and gentle.  These qualities don't exclude truth.  They "precede" truth, going before and laying the groundwork for truth to be received.  Am I right?  Never mind that last question, lest we quarrel :-)